You Don’t Need More Time—You Need Less of the Wrong Things

Redefining priorities, reclaiming time, and making space for what truly matters

Mar 30, 2025

Hi Human,

Let’s be honest—was this a balanced week for you? Not just food-wise, but in life? Because if my candy-to-actual-meals ratio is anything to go by… let’s just say, it’s time for a reset.

A friend once told me, “Your diet is the sum of everything you eat, not just the pack of Cheetos.” That stuck with me. So instead of obsessing over one too many sweet snacks, I’m looking at the whole picture. The carrots balance out the candy, right? (Yes, carrots are my snack of choice. You can call me Bugs Bunny—my childhood nickname.)

As always, I invite you to say this ridiculous but grounding affirmation with me:

"I had plans, and they fell through. I ignored what was important and felt bad afterward. I overate some things, underate others. Maybe some days, I didn’t eat at all. Like ingredients in a tuna casserole, these are all part of my beautiful life."

So tell me—what was something you genuinely enjoyed this week?

A Story About a Chance Encounter

This week, I started my first long-term freelance project management role. And the way I landed it? Pure serendipity.

I was scrolling through Substack, casually reading an article, when something about the writer’s voice clicked with me. It felt like the kind of writing that makes you pause, nod, and think, Damn, I wish I wrote that. So, I did what any internet stranger would do—I left a heart, a comment, and moved on.

But then a tiny voice in my head whispered:
"Why not pitch yourself?"

And honestly? I almost ignored it. I was so close to closing the app and going about my day. But something in me said, What do you have to lose? So, I sent a message. A simple, “Hey, I love your work. If you ever need an extra hand or an intern, I’d love to learn from you.

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Thirty minutes later, we were texting. A day later, we had a call. A week later, I started the job.

Sometimes, things happen that fast. But here’s the thing—this moment wasn’t luck. It was years of effort, tiny steps, and preparation meeting opportunity.

Two Sobering Lessons from This Experience

Setting Clear Goals Changes Everything.
At the start of the year, I wrote down a financial goal. At the time, I was as far away from it as possible. But I focused on one thing: What can I offer right now in exchange for money? This job isn’t just income—it’s my first step toward a bigger vision.
Years of Devotion Pay Off in Unexpected Ways.
I’ve wanted to be a paid writer for years. I’ve taken courses, pitched publications, and heard “no” more times than I can count. Eventually, I let it go and pivoted to management.
And now? I work with a writer. My management role could lead to writing opportunities. Maybe even a lead writer role someday. Life has a funny way of circling back.
If you’re in a funk, feeling like nothing is moving—I see you. I know that frustration. The last nine months of my life were full of low lows, despair, and hopelessness. But tides do change. They always do.
The Trade-Offs of Success
Wins come with their own challenges. This week alone, I’ve had to:
☑ Speak with lawyers.
☑ Figure out visa options.
☑ Navigate a sick family member’s needs.
Life isn’t all roses—but it isn’t all thorns either. It’s the whole rose bush. The beauty, the fragrance, the scratches, all at once.

A Picture of me carrying a 15kg Ikea table home because I needed a table and underestimated how big it was… I hope this makes you smile

This Week’s Voice Memo: “More Time”

This past week was chaotic. I suddenly had to juggle 30 hours of work on top of 16 hours of school. And nothing prepared me for the shift.

It’s been a month since I moved to Barcelona, and while I love it, I started feeling overwhelmed. I haven’t made any friends, I haven’t seen any shows, I haven’t connected with my DYL2M community. And music? I hadn’t even touched it.

I almost gave up.

But I’ve done that before. Let life overwhelm me and just followed its rhythm. And I hated the outcome.

So, this week’s song is a realisation: I don’t need more time—I need to do less of the wrong things and more of the right ones.

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🎶 Lyrics:
"There is so much to be done, so much to be done,
Where has the time gone?
There is so much to be done, so much to be done,
Where has the time gone?"

"I need more time, I need more time,
Just a little more time to get it all done.
But it’s a lie, a big white lie—
No amount of time lets me get it all done."

"So I say goodbye to some of those tasks,
Because they don’t align with who I’m trying to become."

Now, I have more time—for the things that matter.

Thanks for hanging out in Oibiee’s Playground! If this voice memo made you pause, breathe, or rethink something, send it to a friend who might need that moment too

Upcoming Shows & Projects

Last year, I had a show that I never really talked about. I wrote four amazing songs—but they never got released because the audio from the live show wasn’t great.

But I want to share them with the world. So, here’s the plan:
✅ I will finally watch the video and publish it somewhere.
✅ I will put the audio on Bandcamp!

(Not sure how I’ll extract the audio, but I’m resourceful. I’ll figure it out.)

Final Thoughts

Wherever you are in your journey—whether you’re in a funk, riding a high, or somewhere in between—I’m rooting for you.

And if you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember: You don’t need more time. You need to do less of what doesn’t matter and more of what moves you forward.

Tell me—what’s something that made you feel alive this week? I’d love to hear.