Stepping Through the Unknown

Fear, uncertainty, and the choices we make

Dear human,

I truly hope you’re doing okay.

This week, I found myself thinking a lot about fear, uncertainty, and the choices we make—the ones that shape our lives in small and big ways. I caught myself catastrophizing more than I’d like to admit, but in those moments, I asked myself three grounding questions:

1️⃣ How do I feel right now?
2️⃣ Do the actions or inactions my brain is suggesting align with the person I want to become?
3️⃣ Am I reacting based on past experiences, or am I seeing the present situation for what it truly is?

These questions helped me step out of spirals and back into the present.

Now, take a deep breath and say this with me:

"There were crazy highs and terrible lows. Moments of doubt and moments of excitement. Some days I was chirpy, and some days I was dreary. Like ingredients in lasagna, that’s what makes a beautiful week."

I’d love to hear about your week.

Here’s a bit about mine in 3 lessons

Lesson 1: The Only Way to Find Out Is to Step Through

Every day on my walk to class, I passed a right turn. It always caught my attention, but I never took it. I didn’t know where it led, and I didn’t want to get lost.

But one day, I turned.

And to my surprise, it was a shortcut to school. I laughed—at how I’d walked the long way every day simply because I didn’t know what was on the other side.

And isn’t life the same? We avoid taking chances because the unknown feels risky. But sometimes, the thing we fear is actually a faster, better route to where we need to be. And the only way to find out is to step through

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Lesson 2: This Is My Life

I’m writing this letter on a Saturday instead of a Sunday, from Bunkers El Carmel in Barcelona. The city stretches before me, full of life and stories. It’s crowded, yet peaceful.

I walk to the edge, take a deep breath, and whisper: "This is my life."

And in that moment, the magnitude of everything settles in—packing my life into two suitcases, moving to a new country, starting over. I think about every high, every low, every doubt, and every moment of joy that led me here.

It’s not exactly what I imagined, but it’s mine.

And I’m proud of myself for every unknown I’ve walked through to get here.

Oibiee looking over barcelona at Bunkers Del Carmel Barcelona

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Lesson 3: I Have a Choice

This past week, my thoughts have been loud—many of them negative, many of them unhelpful. But I keep coming back to one truth:

I get to choose.

I get to choose whether I believe every thought that crosses my mind or simply observe it.
I get to choose how I show up for my friends, my work, my dreams.
I get to choose how much I take on (currently too much, but I’m learning).

A quote from Leila Hormozi stuck with me this week:

🧠 "Your brain was wired for survival, not success."

It reminded me that fear and hesitation are natural—but I don’t have to let them dictate my actions.

I get to choose.

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An Extra Reflection: The Bigger the Dream, the Bigger the Support

Moving to Spain was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. At every turn, something felt like it was falling apart. But I didn’t do it alone.

Hadiza, Hadiza, Praise, Zorah, Sarah, Chris, Anna, Roxi, Fiona, SISTERS (Onyie, Ene, Tutu & Jojo), Chairman (wink wink)—I was able to do this because of you. Your love, encouragement, and presence made the impossible feel possible.

"The bigger your dreams, the bigger support system you need." – Leila Hormozi

I’m endlessly grateful

Gluten Free Ramen with new friends in Barcelona

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Voice Memo: Giving Up 🎶

I wrote this song 14 days after deciding to move to Spain.

At the time, I was drowning in paperwork, planning, and payments. I was broke, exhausted, and sick. I walked back to my apartment in Budapest, feeling like I had made the biggest mistake of my life. That I had wasted money. That I should just give up.

And in that moment—through tears and frustration—these words tumbled out:

🎶 You don’t give up on me
🎶 You’re always right there
🎶 Even when I stop and freeze, you stand right there

This song is about me and Jesus.

At every impossible moment, He was there—sometimes as peace that made no sense, sometimes as a friend who brought me food, sometimes as a message that reminded me of a better way.

If you’re in a hard place and feel like giving up, I hope you know it’s okay to pause and breathe. And I hope you have people around you to hold space for you until you gain strength again.

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Till next week,
With love and laughter,
Oibiee